I’ve spent most my online time the past couple of weeks moving my blogs over to WordPress. This was a huge undertaking, especially for my BrandonsHorror.com blog which had well over 1,000 photos I needed to properly attach to each page. It’s helped some work days go by a little quicker and is the type of mindless, tedious task that I think I needed. It gave me time to heal a little and kept me from fretting so much about life.
I’ve actually found a good rhythm lately. I’ve been able to find some things that make me happy, focus on them, and just try and let the rest wash away. I know this feeling of contentment will pass, but its always a nice reprieve to find yourself atop of wave of emotion, instead of at the bottom.
Without the constant barrage of information from the internet world and the news I’ve had time to think about my life and the things I want and need in it. This has allowed me to adjust my needs ever so slightly so that they can be met and I can feel a little bit better. I don’t believe in giant leaps of improvement, but I do think small incremental increases can be achieve with a little effort and realistic expectations.
I found some inspiration in a weird place, which isn’t that unusual for me. I’m always looking for lessons to be learned and I tend to shy away at articles like, “Top Five Ways to Be Happy” or books like The Secret. I’ve wasted so much time reading self-help books and getting no where with them.
This time I found a little inspiration from the movie Grownups. It’s a pretty universally hated Adam Sandler movie, that I thought was pretty decent. It’s nothing special, but it’s one of those movies that’s an easy watch and it’ll get a chuckle or two out of you. Just avoid the sequel, it’s pretty horrible.
I re-watched this movie on Monday and I think it just resonated with me. I’m not quite as old as the actors in the film when it was made, but with my 37th birthday coming up I’m pretty close to that age range. I’m getting older and that’s always in the back of my head.
In Grownups, Adam Sandler reunites with his childhood basketball team after their coach dies. They rent a lake house, attempt to disconnect their children from their phones, and just have a good old time. What made the movie so enjoyable for me, was the interactions between the adult male friends. It was the thing I could relate to the most. Having moved a bunch as a child, I don’t have a core group of childhood friends. Actually, I don’t have any friends from my childhood. I have one on again and off again friend from high school and another I met when I just got out of high school, and those are my two oldest friends. Outside of that, I have two or three people I talk to on a near daily basis and they make up my friends.
I used to feel bad about not having more friends nearby. It was almost as if my friends who are so far away weren’t real friends since we couldn’t meet up once a week. Heck, some of these friends I would go 10+ years in seeing. But after observing the friendships of some of my peers and just letting go of this notion that proximity plays a factor in friendship, I realized that my friends are quite amazing. I have three people I can totally rely on almost any time of night. Guys I can reach out to when I have concerns, guys I can share my fandom with. I have friends that I actually enjoy. I’d love to have them closer, but I’m incredibly blessed to have these people in my life even if our relationships are mostly text based. (And what’s wrong with that anyway?)
I think with my free time and getting out of debt this year, I realized I need to make an effort to keep in touch a little better and make some trips to see these friends a little more. I guess, one of the things I took from Grownups is to not take your friends for granted and to realize how precious they are the older you get.